Reconnect with each other.
Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling
You’re tired of feeling disconnected from each other.
It’s like You can’t seem to get on the same page.
Do these scenarios sound familiar?
You’re stuck in repetitive conflict patterns and unable to express your needs and emotions effectively. Criticism and defensiveness are center stage in your arguments. It’s difficult to understand each other, and to be understood by your partner.
You and your partner aren’t sure how to effectively apologize and repair after a disagreement. Arguments get completely dropped, or pushed out indefinitely, and they aren’t ever resolved.
It’s hard for both of you to trust that your partner has your back.
The spark and passion have faded, leaving you feeling lonely and unfulfilled. Maybe it was a loss, a big life change, or just the passage of time. You and your partner seem to be living in parallel rather than connecting on an emotional level.
You’re looking to heal after infidelity or a betrayal. You want to get everything on the table and move forward in harmony.
There is problematic substance use in your relationship, or one or both of you are in recovery. Perhaps you want to rebuild trust and find new routines as a couple that support sobriety.
You want to go from “good” to “great” and do the preventative work to help your relationship stay on track. Maybe you don’t have “big trouble” but you do want to invest the time and energy into maintaining your relationship in the face of smaller challenges.
Sound like you?
Struggling with communication breakdowns.
Exhausted by the unresolved conflicts and resentments.
Ready to stop the cycle of fighting.
Missing the friendship and spark that you used to have.
Here’s what we’ll do together
Couples therapy can help you grow closer.
Throughout your time in couples therapy, you and your partner will practice new ways of expressing yourself, talking to, and relating to each other that will help strengthen your relationship.
You will work on creating a safe and non-threatening environment where you both can discuss difficult topics and become more comfortable being vulnerable with each other. This will allow you to repair past hurts.
You and your partner will also learn tools and strategies to improve how you communicate with each other. This will help you interrupt arguments before they escalate and feel more at peace with each other.
An important part of therapy will be listening to each other, understanding each other’s feelings, and effectively expressing your own needs. Doing so will help you feel more connected, supported, and emotionally intimate.
You and your partner will make a point to regularly express love and appreciation. This will grow your friendship and act as a buffer against conflict.
Finally, you will create shared habits and routines that reinforce your bond. Over time, this will help you feel more in sync, like a true, connected team.
Go from this…
“You never listen to me!”
“I only did this because you did that!”
Yelling, slamming doors, or threatening divorce during disagreements.
Eye-rolling, sarcasm, name-calling.
To this…
Talk about your emotions and express a need.
Take responsibility and own up to your behavior without blaming your partner.
Take a break and self-soothe when emotions are running high.
Validating your partner’s perspective even if you have a different perspective.
What Can We Expect From Couples Therapy?
Throughout couples therapy, you and your partner will learn practical skills to improve communication between you. You'll discover new ways to express yourselves, actively listen, and understand each other's perspectives. This will foster a deeper sense of connection and empathy between you.
Our sessions together will empower you and your partner with tools to navigate conflicts constructively. You'll gain insight into the underlying dynamics behind your disagreements and develop strategies to resolve conflicts respectfully. This will nurture mutual growth and understanding.
Even after significant breaches, trust can be rebuilt between you and your partner. You'll learn techniques to repair broken trust, rebuild transparency, and establish a solid foundation to weather life's challenges together.
I'll help you and your partner rediscover emotional intimacy that may have been lost.
Our sessions will explore reasons behind emotional distance. You'll gain strategies to reconnect, foster vulnerability, and nurture a deep emotional bond so you feel like lovers again, not just roommates.
Couples therapy with me is a good fit if…
Are committed to your relationship, but feel stuck when it comes to how to improve it.
Are open to feedback and changing your behavior both in session and at home.
Are interested in the science and research behind what makes relationships go the distance.
Want additional resources for learning like books, blog articles, and podcasts.
Couples therapy with me is not a good fit if…
You’re not willing to work on your behavior and you’d rather blame your spouse for the problems.
There is ongoing domestic violence or infidelity you aren’t willing to be honest about.
One or both of you are strongly considering divorce. Look at discernment counseling instead.
You are set on divorce and are only looking for mediation or coparenting support.
Contact me today to get started in couples therapy.
Questions?
FAQs
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Yes! The methods I use in couples therapy sessions are supported by over 40 years of scientific research with thousands of couples.
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This is a valid concern. In any case of marital problems, family members and friends almost always “take a side,” so it’s understandable to be concerned your couples therapist will do the same thing.
In every conflict, I believe each of you have your own individual perspective, and you both are right. You each come from their own specific background of experiences, beliefs, and values. Rather than litigating “the facts”, it’s more important for both partners to learn to effectively express themselves and validate each other.
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Ending the relationship is a serious decision that only you and your partner can make. It’s not my place or my role to advise whether or not your relationship should continue. My job is to help each of you adjust your behavior for the betterment of yourself, your partner, and your relationship. In doing this, you can make an informed decision about the future. With that being said, if you and your partner come to the place where the decision to end the relationship is on the table, I will walk through that with you.
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Definitely not! Many partners come in because they want outside help before making a major life decision such as getting married, moving in together, etc. In fact, you don’t even need to be partnered to benefit from the type of skills a person learns in therapy. Lots of people come into therapy to process through and learn from a break up or a divorce, or to work on themselves so they can be a better future partner.
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Getting started is easy! Just contact me with any questions or concerns, or to schedule your first therapy session.