Reconnect with each other.
Marriage Counseling in
Seattle, Washington
You’re tired of feeling disconnected from each other.
It’s like You can’t seem to get on the same page.
Do these scenarios sound familiar?
You and your partner are looking for marriage counseling in Seattle because your relationship has lost its way. Disagreements arise frequently, leaving you feeling unheard and misunderstood. The arguments escalate, with criticism and defensiveness taking center stage. Worse yet, there is no resolution after you fight. Issues get dropped or avoided rather than worked through.
This dynamic has eroded the trust between you. You wonder if your partner still has your back. The passion and spark that initially brought you together has faded. There is an emotional distance that makes you feel lonely, even though your partner is right there.
Perhaps there was a loss or major life change that catalyzed this shift. Or, maybe it was a more gradual drifting apart over time as you focused on your careers, kids, and the fast-paced Miami lifestyle. Either way, you miss the connection you once shared and desperately want it back.
Betrayal may have also damaged that foundation of trust. You want to bring everything out into the open and rebuild your relationship on the basis of openness and honesty.
Substance use issues may be feeding your problems, too. Establishing new ways of interacting as a couple is important to restoring the trust and intimacy between you.
Or maybe your relationship is still fundamentally good, but you want to be proactive. You don't want to wait until you hit rock bottom to get help. You'd rather nurture your bond through smaller challenges before they become major ones. You know that all relationships take consistent work, and you're ready to do that work.
The common thread is a desire to heal, reconnect, and strengthen your partnership. You want to break negative patterns so that you can move forward in a healthier, more fulfilling direction together again.
Sound like you?
Struggling with communication breakdowns.
Exhausted by the unresolved conflicts and resentments.
Ready to repair the trust.
Missing the friendship and spark that you used to have.
Here’s what we’ll do together
Marriage counseling in Seattle can help you grow closer.
During marriage counseling in Seattle, you and your partner will learn new ways of relating to each other. Practicing this new skill will transform your relationship over time.
We'll work to create an environment where you both feel safe being vulnerable. This will allow you to discuss difficult topics openly and honestly. You'll finally be able to address hurts from the past and begin the healing process.
You'll develop communication tools and strategies to stop arguments before they spiral out of control. An essential part of the process will be listening to each other, understanding one another's perspectives, and expressing your own needs effectively. This will help you feel more connected and supported. The two of you will feel more at peace with each other.
Making a habit of showing love, admiration, and appreciation probably seems basic. But actually, it's vital to nurturing your marriage. It nourishes your friendship and acts as a buffer when conflicts arise. You can start small with thoughtful gestures, like bringing home fresh seafood from Pike Place Market. We will practice other ways you can do this in your daily life in Seattle.
We will also work on establishing shared routines that reinforce your bond as a couple and help you feel more connected overall. Going for a walk along the Seattle waterfront, trying a new restaurant in the International District, or escaping to the San Juan Islands for a weekend getaway are ways you can reconnect. Over time, these new habits and skills will enable you to relate as true partners and a team again.
The goal is to learn how to break negative cycles and improve understanding of one another. This will empower you to move forward together in a healthier, more fulfilling direction. With effort and willingness, couples therapy can provide you with a roadmap to get your relationship back on track.
Go from this…
“You never listen to me!”
“I only did this because you did that!”
Yelling, slamming doors, or threatening divorce during disagreements.
Eye-rolling, sarcasm, name-calling.
To this…
Talk about your emotions and express a need.
Take responsibility and own up to your behavior without blaming your partner.
Take a break and self-soothe when emotions are running high.
Validating your partner’s perspective even if you have a different perspective.
What can we expect from marriage counseling in Seattle?
Through couples counseling in Seattle, you and your partner will gain the tools and skills to communicate better. You'll learn new ways to express yourselves, listen attentively, and understand each other's viewpoints. This will build deeper connection and empathy between you.
Our sessions will equip you and your partner with tools to manage conflict constructively. You'll understand the underlying issues driving your disagreements. You’ll also develop strategies to resolve conflicts respectfully. This will nurture mutual understanding and growth.
Even after major violations of trust, it can be restored. You'll develop skills to restore broken trust and forge a solid foundation to approach life's challenges together.
I'll assist you and your partner in rekindling the lost intimacy. We'll explore causes of emotional distance. You'll reconnect with each other, practice vulnerability, and cultivate closeness so you feel like lovers again — not just roommates or coparents.
Couples therapy in Seattle is a good fit if you…
Are committed to your relationship, but feel stuck when it comes to how to improve it.
Are open to feedback and changing your behavior both in session and at home.
Are interested in the science and research behind what makes relationships go the distance.
Want additional resources for learning like books, blog articles, and podcasts.
Couples therapy in Seattle is not a good fit if…
You’re not willing to work on your behavior and you’d rather blame your spouse for the problems.
There is ongoing domestic violence or infidelity you aren’t willing to be honest about.
One or both of you are strongly considering divorce.
You are set on divorce and are only looking for mediation or coparenting support.
Contact me to start marriage counseling in Seattle.
Questions?
FAQs about marriage counseling in Seattle
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Yes! The methods I use in couples therapy sessions are supported by over 40 years of scientific research with thousands of couples.
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This is a valid concern. In any case of marital problems, family members and friends almost always “take a side,” so it’s understandable to be concerned your couples therapist will do the same thing.
In every conflict, I believe each of you have your own individual perspective, and you both are right. You each come from their own specific background of experiences, beliefs, and values. Rather than litigating “the facts”, it’s more important for both partners to learn to effectively express themselves and validate each other.
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Ending the relationship is a serious decision that only you and your partner can make. It’s not my place or my role to advise whether or not your relationship should continue. My job is to help each of you adjust your behavior for the betterment of yourself, your partner, and your relationship. In doing this, you can make an informed decision about the future. With that being said, if you and your partner come to the place where the decision to end the relationship is on the table, I will walk through that with you.
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Definitely not! Many partners come in because they want outside help before making a major life decision such as getting married, moving in together, etc. In fact, you don’t even need to be partnered to benefit from the type of skills a person learns in therapy. Lots of people come into therapy to process through and learn from a break up or a divorce, or to work on themselves so they can be a better future partner.
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Getting started is easy! Just contact me with any questions or concerns, or to schedule your first therapy session.
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Couples therapy in Seattle is conducted 100% online. I use a secure, HIPAA-compliant video platform that is simple to use.
Mental Health Resources in Seattle, WA
Driving Directions to Seattle, WA
From the North (around Everett, WA area): Start by heading south on I-5 S toward Seattle. Continue on I-5 S for about 30 miles. Use the left lanes to take exit 167 for Mercer St or exit 165B for Denny Way to enter downtown Seattle.
From the South (around Federal Way, WA area): Begin by heading north on I-5 N toward Seattle. Drive for approximately 30 miles, following I-5 N directly into downtown Seattle.
From the East (around Issaquah, WA area): Take I-90 W toward Seattle. Continue on I-90 W for about 30 miles. Use the exit for I-5 N toward Vancouver BC, then merge onto I-5 N and follow signs for downtown Seattle.
From the West (around Kitsap Peninsula): Take the WA-16 E across the Tacoma Narrows Bridge, then follow signs to merge onto I-5 N toward Seattle.
About Seattle, WA
Seattle, Washington is a major coastal city located in King County.
Seattle is renowned for its iconic landmarks like the Space Needle, a towering observation tower built for the 1962 World's Fair.
Seattle is famous for being the birthplace of companies like Microsoft, Amazon, and Starbucks.
Major attractions include the lively Pike Place Market, with its fresh seafood and produce stands, as well as the Museum of Pop Culture.
People appreciate Seattle for its stunning natural scenery, proximity to outdoor activities, vibrant music and arts scene, and thriving technology and innovation industries. The city's neighborhoods like Capitol Hill and Fremont offer unique shopping, dining, and entertainment experiences reflecting Seattle's diverse cultures.